Submitted by: Anthony Malibu
He dumped you, but he still calls… he still emails… and your ex still text-messages you, even after the breakup. So what do all the mixed signals mean? Is there a way to decipher your ex boyfriend’s true intentions?
Guys can be very confusing at times. That said, there’s nothing more confusing than an ex boyfriend who keeps texting you after the break up.
Does he want you back? Is he interested in dating you again? Or is your ex just making friendly small talk?
When you’re still in love with your ex boyfriend, it’s easy to read into things. You’ll be looking for signs that your ex still loves you, even when they’re not there. Being honest can be difficult here. It’s easy to deceive yourself into some very wishful thinking.
That being said, guess what? Anytime your ex boyfriend is contacting you after the break up: he’s still hung up on you. There’s no denying the fact that your ex still has feelings and emotions that make him pick up the phone and call, or even send you some post-breakup text-messages.
Any guy who’s truly done will be DONE with you completely. He won’t answer your calls, your emails, or your own attempts at communication. Most of all, he certainly won’t be sending you texts that could keep you hanging on.
So why does my ex boyfriend keep texting me? What does he really want?
The answer to that question can vary, but the root cause behind the contact is always the same. Quite simply, a guy will text you because he’s thinking about you. Either you’ve withdrawn enough that he’s finally started missing you (which is a really great starting tactic), or he’s been recently rehashing the relationship in his mind. Either way, you’re on the right track to getting your boyfriend back. How you
to these texts will determine whether you’ll date him again, or whether the two of you will go your separate ways.
What your ex says in his text message can determine what he’s thinking about your past relationship. The following examples are a good general guide to what’s going on:
“I just wanted to make sure you’re okay…”
This is bogus, really. What your ex boyfriend is really trying to say here is that he’s thinking about you. Mentally he’s not doing alright, but your ex can’t come out and tell you that. So what does he do? He uses the guise of making sure
doing alright in order to make contact. Pretty slick, but that’s what this text means.
“I want to know when I can pick up the stuff I left at your house…”
Unless your ex left something very important at your house, this type of communication can wait. Moreover, if he really wanted his stuff back your ex would call you on the phone directly. The fact that he’s texting you this message means he’s not too serious about it. Overall, it’s just a weak excuse for making contact with you.
“I was wondering if we could meet up. I have a few things to say to you…”
Your ex could be reconsidering the break up here, and that’s a good thing. In trying to win your boyfriend back, this is one of the best text-messages you can get.
At the same time however, you need to be very careful. An ex boyfriend who texts you that he wants to meet up? He could easily be looking for nothing more than sex. Depending upon how long it’s been since the break up, your ex might be feeling you out to see how you’d handle a no-strings attached sexual encounter. Agree to this, and he might even try for the “friends with benefits” arrangement.
Don’t give in to your ex boyfriend’s advances thinking it will help get him back. There are times when having sex with your ex can actually help solidify on ongoing reconciliation… but not sleeping with him straight out of the clear blue sky. Always be wary of an ex boyfriend’s true motives when he offers to meet up with you.
“Just because we’ve broken up, it doesn’t mean we can’t still be friends…”
Why would your ex boyfriend text message you something like this? Because staying “friends” with you enables him to keep you hanging on. Becoming his platonic buddy gives him the ability to know where you are and what you’re doing at all times… turning you into little more than a big giant safety net.
Does your ex boyfriend really want to be friends? Hell no. What he’s looking for is security and comfort. It’s nice to know that if his new single life fails miserably he can always fall back on his old standby: you.
Never accept friendship when you truly want a real, genuine relationship with your ex boyfriend. Becoming friends with your ex is like taking a huge demotion, and even worse, accepting it with a big phony grin.
What To Do When Your Exboyfriend Keeps Texting You
Wanna know what to do when your ex sends you a bunch of post-breakup text messages? NOTHING. Absolutely, positively nothing at all.
The more you ignore your ex’s lame attempts at contacting you through your phone, the faster you’ll pique his interest. Up until now you’ve always answered his texts. So once you finally stop? Your ex will immediately wonder what has changed in your life. He’ll need to know if you’ve met someone else, don’t care anymore, or have finally gotten over him. Believe it or not, these things will make your boyfriend interested in you again. They’ll drive the need for him to get back in touch… REAL touch, using a phone or physically seeing you face to face.
Want your ex boyfriend back? Learn
how to handle his texts. Beyond that, you should also learn the many methods and techniques you can use to get your ex boyfriend interested in you again.
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